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Writer's pictureLogan Rhys

Exposing Truths: Understanding and Healing from Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

Sexual assault is a distressing and traumatic experience that can affect individuals regardless of their gender. It's crucial to acknowledge that men and boys can indeed be victims of sexual assault. In this blog post, we will delve into the reality of sexual assault in males, define sexual assault, shed light on unique challenges faced by male survivors, explore the impact on sexual orientation, discuss steps to take if you've been assaulted, and emphasize the role of therapy in healing from such trauma.


Defining Sexual Assault and Its Impact

Sexual assault involves any unwanted sexual activity without consent. It encompasses a range of actions, from inappropriate touching to non-consensual intercourse. The trauma of sexual assault can cause a myriad of emotional, psychological, and physical effects.


Unique Challenges Faced by Male Survivors

Male survivors of sexual assault often face unique challenges due to societal perceptions and stereotypes. These challenges may include:

Societal Stigma: Fear of being perceived as weak or emasculated may prevent male survivors from seeking help or reporting the assault.

Lack of Support: Limited awareness about sexual assault against men can lead to a lack of support and understanding from friends, family, and society.

Gender Norms: Societal expectations about masculinity can hinder male survivors from expressing their emotions and seeking help.

Self-Blame: Like all survivors, male survivors may struggle with self-blame, guilt, and shame, impacting their ability to heal.


Effect on Sexual Orientation

Sexual assault does not determine one's sexual orientation. The trauma of assault does not change or define an individual's sexual orientation; it is a separate aspect of identity.


Steps to Take if You've Been Assaulted

Seek Safety: Prioritize your safety. If you're in immediate danger, call emergency services.

Reach Out for Support: Connect with someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, or counselor. You don't have to go through this alone.

Preserve Evidence: If you decide to report the assault, preserving evidence is important. Avoid cleaning up to preserve potential biological evidence (do not shower, bath, wash your hands, comb your hair, brush your teeth). Do not urinate or if you must, collect your urine. This will help determine if you were drugged. Finally, do not change your clothes or if you must, put them in a paper bag and bring them with you to the hospital.

Seek Medical Attention: Even if there are no visible injuries, it's advisable to seek medical attention to address potential health concerns.

Report to Authorities: If you feel comfortable, report the assault to law enforcement. You have the right to pursue legal action.


The Role of Therapy in Healing

Therapy offers a safe and confidential space for male survivors to heal and regain a sense of control. A qualified therapist can provide:

Validation and Empathy: A therapist can offer validation, empathy, and a non-judgmental environment in which to process the trauma.

Coping Strategies: Therapy equips survivors with coping skills to manage triggers, anxiety, and other emotional reactions.

Trauma Processing: I use evidence-based techniques, including EMDR, to process trauma; reducing its impact on mental well-being.

Self-Empowerment: Therapy fosters a sense of empowerment, helping survivors reclaim their lives and identities.


Sexual assault affects men and boys, and acknowledging this truth is essential for fostering understanding, empathy, and support. Seeking therapy is a courageous step toward reclaiming your well-being. If you have been assaulted, I encourage you to reach out. I am here to offer guidance, support, and a safe space for male survivors to heal. You are not alone, and your experiences and emotions are valid. With the right resources and support, you can find liberation from the trauma of sexual assault, and move forward empowered and resilient.

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